“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius

“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
Chinese Proverb

Saying no is often the easier way out.

When you say no you can safely stay within your repletion zone. You don’t have to fear lightweight or being rejected.

The scary unknown and sometimes difficult transpiration can be avoided.

But if you say yes your life can expand and deepen. The yes allows you to unshut up your life to increasingly happiness.

Today I would like to share 10 things that I have said yes to and that have helped me to wilt happier in my life.

Pick one of these that resonate the most with you and focus on making it a part of your life.

1. Stuff imperfect.

Trying to be perfect is setting the bar too high. It will be untellable to reach.

And so you’ll lower your self-esteem. You may not finger very happy well-nigh how things are going in your life.

Even though they might be going very well indeed.

Perfectionism is mindset that eats at you and your happiness. Saying yes to stuff imperfect can turn that around.

How to do it:

Realize the financing of ownership into myths of perfection.

By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection.

It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it.

But in real life it clashes with reality and it can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just considering your expectations are out of this world.

I find it very helpful to remind myself of this simple fact.

Go for good enough.

Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else very slowly or never stuff finished.

So go for good unbearable instead.

Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something tabbed good unbearable and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.

2. Stuff you.

Not stuff worldly-wise to be yourself, unchangingly trying to transpiration for others or censoring yourself don’t finger good at all.

It makes life finger so small and limited.

So how can you be yourself? Your environment plays a huge part.

How to do it:

Supportive people.

Spend increasingly time with the people who support your dreams, values and you. Or are at least neutral.

And spend less time with people who unchangingly criticize you or you simply aren’t a good fit for.

Supportive and life-expanding influences outside of your everyday life.

Change your environment not only tropical to you. Go remoter and spend increasingly time with sources of information that supports your dreams and can requite you information that expands and makes your life happier and increasingly exciting.

Find support from people you have never met via books, movies, blogs, forums and music.

And spend less time with negative and limiting influences.

3. The things that make you come alive.

It is important to find some time and energy for the things that you finger makes you come alive.

How to do it:

Mix it up.

Try something new, plane if it is just something small each week.

• Eat the vegetarian dish at lunch if you unchangingly eat meat.
• Listen to some music that isn’t your normal cup of tea.
• Go out to a movie, café or pub with friends if you usually stay in at night. Or vice versa.

Create variation and expand your repletion zone regularly in small ways to live a happier life.

Reconnect with what you used to love if it has fallen by the wayside.

If you used to go fishing, paint or play the guitar and it really made you come working then reconnect.

Use an hour for it this week and see if it still brings you joy and makes you come alive.

4. Optimism.

Pessimism can really limit your life and bring it to a standstill.

It can make it finger like there's no point in trying considering it won’t make a difference or you’ll just fail. It can create ceilings and walls made out of glass where there really are none.

Saying yes a increasingly optimistic way of thinking can on the other hand unshut your life up.

How to do it:

Ask yourself optimistic questions.

When you’re in what seems like a negative situation then make something largest out of it by asking yourself questions that promote optimism and helps you to find solutions.

Questions like:

• What is one thing that is positive or good well-nigh this situation?
• What is the opportunity within this situation?

Start your day off on the right foot.

As mentioned in tip #2, the influences in your life can make a huge difference.

So segregate to spend your breakfast time with an optimistic influence like for example a book, a blog or your mom.

Or talk to someone early in the day that most often supports and bottoms you up like a co-worker or a friend in school.

5. Turning negative self-talk around.

It is very important to alimony your motivation and your self-esteem up to live a happier life.

Your inner critic may be one of biggest obstacles standing in your way of that.

If you make a mistake or fail, if someone criticizes you or if you are just getting tired then that small inner voice can wilt louder and louder and stilt and alimony you down.

It can tell you that you are stupid or lazy. That you will not succeed. That you are worse or uglier than someone else.

Being worldly-wise to turn the inner critic virtually or to shut it up as soon as it pops up is a very helpful skill.

How to do it:

Say stop.

Simply create a stop word or stop-phrase that you say or shout in your mind whenever your critic pipes up with a distorted and self-esteem hurting thought.

Say: Stop!

Or: No, no, no, we are not going there again!

Explain to yourself what this will lead to over the next year or more.

As I mentioned in tip #1, reminding yourself of the forfeit of ownership into myths of perfection is a powerful way to replace those thought habits.

This works very well for other self-esteem hurting thought patterns too.

Remind yourself of how the inner critic has shaped your life so far. And in your mind see the forfeit of letting it roam self-ruling for flipside year or five.

6. Saying no when you finger it is the right thing for you to do.

To have the time and energy to say yes to the most important things you have to say no to some things too.

How to do it:

What do I truly want to focus my time and energy on?

When you get an offer or an opportunity arises ask yourself this question.

When you squint over your schedule ask yourself this question. Think well-nigh and squint at what your top priorities are and what you deep want surpassing you say anything.

Disarm and then state your need.

It becomes easier for people to winnow your no if you disarm them first.

You could for example do that by honestly saying that you are flattered or that you fathom the kind offer.

Then you, for instance, add that you do not have the time for unsuspicious and doing what they want. Or say that you do not finger that this offer is a good fit for your life right now.

7. Forgiveness.

Not clinging to the past and to the hurt that is there but to let it go and squint to the now and the future is an essential thing to find increasingly happiness in your life.

Forgiving is not unchangingly easy and can take time but there are some things that can make it a little easier.

How to do it:

Remind yourself that you forgive for your own benefit.

As long as you don’t forgive someone you are linked to that person. Your thoughts will return to the person who wronged you and what he or she did over and over again.

The emotional link between the two of you is so strong and inflicts much suffering in you and – as a result of your inner turmoil – most often in other people virtually you too.

When you forgive you do not only release the other person. You set yourself self-ruling from all of that traumatization too.

Make a habit of forgiving yourself.

Do not just forgive others but moreover yourself. By forgiving yourself – instead of resenting yourself for something you did a week or 10 years ago – you make the habit of forgiveness increasingly and increasingly of a natural part of you.

And so forgiving others becomes easier too.

8. Making someone else happy.

Making someone else happier has many benefits. The happiness spreads when to you as you see his or her squatter light up and as you know you did the right thing.

It spreads when to you as people have a strong tendency to want to requite when when you have washed-up something good for them.

And it spreads out into the world as that now happier person may spread his or her happiness to other people.

How to do it:

Help out practically.

Lend someone a hand when they are moving. Or requite them a ride in your car. Or if they need information, try to find a solution by asking the people you know or via Google.

Just listen.

Sometime a friend or someone tropical to you may just want to vent or for someone to listen as he or she figures things out. It may not seem like much but it can be an immense help for someone who needs it.

So be there fully – don’t sit there thinking well-nigh something else – and listen.

9. Openness and growth.

Saying yes to stuff unshut to the good things in life and growing as a person plays a big role when it comes to happiness.

The other things in this vendible will help you with that. But here are two increasingly tips that will make your journey a little easier and simpler.

How to do it:

Change one thing at a time.

Changing many things or your whole life at once sure sounds good. But willpower is something we often overestimate and everyday life tends to come in the way.

So to make sure you have a much largest endangerment of waffly a habit or zone of your life transpiration just one thing at a time.

Start small.

Just say no to one small thing you don’t want to do this week. Or forgive one person for one thing. Or help and make someone happy in some small way.

Take just one small step outside of your repletion zone.

10. To living your life fully despite setbacks.

When things have been standing still for while or you hit a tumor in the road then it's easy to when down. To shrink. To requite in or requite up.

But a largest way to say yes to happiness in those situations is to say yes to living your life fully.

How to do it:

Keep going.

When you goof or make a mistake don’t requite up. Reconnect with optimism by using the questions remoter up in this article. Find inspiration from books and blogs and the people virtually you.

And don’t write-up yourself up. Instead nudge yourself when on track again.

Remember, it's not too late to transpiration your life.

I didn’t really try to modernize my life very much until I was 25. And many throughout the world and history have made positive changes far later in life than that.

So if you want to make a transpiration then start today. Work with what you have where you are right now.

Start small and take the first step towards something new.